
Yesterday, I had the privelege of hosting and refereeing a set of dodgeball games with the Quest program.
In conversation with Cpt. Menzel afterwards, we discussed why Dodgeball—and other intense, rough games—are good for boys.
They bring out testosterone.
I know a lot of moms out there think this is a bad idea. I disagree. Our men need to be manly men, and our boys need to be manly boys. When young men are coddled and raised to be effeminate, gentle creatures, they are emasculated of their God-given drives to be manly. Many mothers are ultimately destroying their boys by raising them to avoid conflict, to avoid fighting, to avoid testosterone. Of course, there needs to be balance—young men need to understand how to be gentleman, how to use their drives to protect the weak.
They Create Competition
Men need to compete. They need to be self-driven. Games like dodgeball and activities like wrestling encourage this healthy competition.
They Promote Endurance
When you get smacked in the face by a dodgeball going ninety miles an hour, it hurts! It may even leave a mark! But pain is good. Injury isn’t, pain is. Pain motivates growth, and self-willingly enduring pain increases self-control in other areas of life as well.
This morning at 5:45 am, I was leading a PT session in which we were doing forward lunges up and down Heartbreak Hill (a long, steep hill next to our dorms) and holding positions like the “Flaming Chariot” (a sort of squat with your arms held out). It hurt. It really hurt. Our thighs felt like they were on fire.
I encouraged the guys to realize that “Pain is good. Pain is weakness leaving the body.” (to quote the USMC). I also told them, “Don’t give up! Don’t give in! Don’t give in! If you give in now, if you give in on the PT field, you will give in when you’re home alone surfing the internet. If you give in now, you will give in when you see an immodest magazine. Don’t give in! Don’t give in!” Of course, you have to picture me screaming this, as we were in mind-numbing pain at this point.
But it bears remembering that self-discipline, endurance, in physical activities will transfer to unrelated areas in our lives. By getting up early, or forcing myself to take freezing showers, I build my willpower and increase my ability to fight sin.
Play Hard Games!
So, in a nod to The Rebelution: Play Hard Games! As men, we need to get hurt. We need to push through the pain. We need to be encouraged to have the intestinal fortitude necessary to be manly men.